Stop blaming others.

Al 'amru bi al-ma'ruf & Al-nahyu 'an al-munkar. : enjoining good and forbidding evil
(commonly known as amar ma'ruf nahi munkar)


Learnt about that topic today. And what caught my attention was the subtopic: Levels of Al-'amru bil ma'ruf & al-nahyu 'an al-munkar.


There are 4 main levels of amar ma'ruf & nahi munkar.

1. Self
2. Family
3. Friends & relatives
4. Society

As you can see, yourself (or myself) is considered as the core in enjoining good & forbidding evil. Meaning, we, as Muslims, need to practice amar ma'ruf & nahi munkar in our daily life by advising our own selves to enjoin the good & forbid the evil doings. And that would also mean, you shouldn't advise others if you're unable to advise yourself.

Why am I emphasizing this, you ask?



Well.. I have a similitude here. (sort of)


There are 2 persons in a college, a boy and a girl. Previously, they tried to practice amar ma'ruf wa nahi munkar by telling their friends 'stop doing this and that'. That's fine to me because as Muslims, we should constantly remind our brothers and sisters what's permissible and what's not in Islam. But to tell you the truth, most of their friends dislike them. However, one day I heard these 2 persons became a couple (sorry for the backbiting). An 'Islamic couple' I guess. (does that even exist?) Gotta remind you that before this happened, they constantly advice their friends not to have a gf or bf because it's haram in Islam. And out of the blue, they became a lovely couple. Did I tell you that they have similar personalities? Oh yes, and perhaps that's the reason why they can fit well with each other. However, while they themselves are in a special relationship, the boy was still keep telling his other friend that he cannot have a gf (using harsh words) because it's wrong. He excluded himself because he said he has booked (cop?) that girl to be his future spouse. Oh. I. See.
But then, after a while, the rumour about them (the girl & the boy) being a couple has spread widely as fast as a lightning. (everybody loves backbiting,eh?) Until one day, a friend of the girl asked her, "I heard that you have a boyfie now, with mr.K. Is it true? Erm, I'm just curious you know.." And the girl replied, "Of course it's not true. from where do you hear this?" and her friend said, "from my friend, a guy."
So right after being punched with such question, the girl reported to his bf, so-called mr.K. This boy got really mad so he asked all of his potential-backbiter guy friends, "Who spread the rumours huh?"
As you can see, he blamed others for his own action. Why did he feel insecure in the first place? Easy. That means the rumour was indeed true. Even if you didn't know about the rumour, you can still guess correctly (without doubt) as they always do eye-contact while in class. euuw. So to cover his act, he started blaming others. What on earth? Stop blaming others laa. The main reason why people didn't listen to your advice is because you yourself doesn't follow what you've said. And honestly, people get annoyed with you. Cakap tak serupa bikin.

So my point here is, you should implement amar ma'ruf & nahi munkar in your life first before you want to fix others. Thank you.



p/s: berguna tau belajar UNGS. haha